AI Wedding Ceremonies clever, quick ….. and completely heartless

Read on to see what happened when The Ceremony Celebrant asked AI to write a wedding ceremony? 

The experiment

I’ve thought about whether I should write this post multiple times.

I shelve it for various reasons; not least of all, it could massively backfire, planting seeds that sends business hot footing it over them thar hills into the meta-verse; but then, it niggles away at my thoughts and makes a reappearance. 

So, to hell with it, I’m going to spit it out; it’s the elephant in the room for many celebrants ….. AI 

I’ve posted recently about clients getting back to me after receiving my introductory email with a polite “thanks for your time, we’re asking a friend to do our ceremony” 

This sent me down a rabbit hole of spiralling “what ifs” and I asked myself, “what if” I weren’t a celebrant and my friend asked me to “say a few words” (… this is the stock phrase that I’m often told is all “the friend” will need to do 😵‍💫) 

Where would I start? 

Up until recently, I suppose you could google “wedding ceremony script” and it would spit out multiple examples of what they should include and the different styles you could expect.  However, with the advent of AI, this has opened up a whole new realm of possibilities and Yes, “voilà” it will write a full script for you! This blows my mind 🤯

So, in the interests of research, I picked out notes for a script I had written recently following a discovery call with one of my own couples and put it out there to ChatGPT with the brief:

“My friends Lisa and Dave (😬)  have asked me to deliver their wedding ceremony. I want it to be heartfelt, emotional, fun….. (all  of the stuff I try to include in my own scripts) with a focus on their vibe and their love story” 

I pasted my own notes in and hit “enter” 

In a nano second what it returned shocked me! 😳

It was structured, had some great comparative references in it, it flowed, it had light and shade and humour…. BUT (and it’s a whopping BUT) it wasn’t anything suitable to reflect the very essence of the couple I had written the notes about and it most certainly wasn’t anything I would ever say or feel comfortable delivering to 50+ of Lisa and Dave’s nearest and dearest.

Smart? Yes….

Completely soulless?.… also Yes

I’d quite frankly have had “fraud” written all over me!

The Human Touch …

Indulge me while I explain why your love deserves the human touch.

I do spend time getting to know my couples. I enjoy their company, I give them the tools to think about their relationship, ask them questions and try to dig deep into their happiest memories and feelings about one another. 

Then I spend hours getting creative, putting their thoughts onto the page. I’m a listening, “pen & paper” kinda gal, I may occasionally use a thesaurus 🤓 and often asking Siri to make a note of something that popped into my head while I’m out cycling.

So what I guess I’m trying to highlight here is that AI is a truly remarkable tool for so many things; but do you really want your friend to stand beside you on your wedding day and deliver what is essentially a prompt sheet?

20 minutes of word salad computed faster than the time it took to type the brief. Words that are not written from the heart or that are authentically “you”? 

If you’re not right bothered and just want to do the “ceremony bit” for the “gram” then this absolutely is the solution for you.

Bish Bash Bosh …. Done ✊🏻

If, however, you’d like your ceremony to BE the wedding, to be the start of your marriage, the most important part of your day …… 

don’t ask ChattyG – ask ChrissieG ✨… (Not even sorry 😂)

We are “The Ceremony Celebrant” 

Wedding celebrants based on Spain’s beautiful northern Costa Blanca, creating relaxed, heartfelt wedding ceremonies, vow renewals and elopement ceremonies across Gandia, Oliva, Denia, Javea, Moraira, Calpe, Altea, L’ Alfàs del Pi, Albir, Villajoyosa, El Campello, Alicante and the stunning inland Jalon Valley and mountain villages. 

Our ceremonies are personal, fun and authentically you full of warmth, laughter and real connection (because we do laid back and real, not formal and stuffy)